Okay.
First of all, I really feel grateful of Allah subhanallahu wa ta'ala's favors. I cannot deny any of it. But as a human, whyyyyyy tho whyyyyyyyy complaining has special part in my day 😂.
Okay... here is one of them.
So, I have moved on June last year in the new work place. Actually it's only a few meters aways from my previous work place. The environment and the people are quite familiar. Nothing to worry about. With the good and bad experiences I got from the previous place, I have set boundaries and rules that I need to apply for myself. One of the rules is speaking out my mind - of course if necessary, and another one is no hesitating to say no if I have to. Forget about reluctance. F**K that!!! Actually those are rules of thumb. But, well, yeah.
Have heard some unpleasant things about the people of the new place but I just shook it off. I have my own problems to think of, not interested in minding somebody else's businesses. Thank u, but no, thank u. Hoping that it would keep me away from any dispute with anybody.
But the world doesn't go that way. Sunnatullah that we will always be tested.
I really want to write the first thing or the first person that made me mad there, but uhm... skip it 😂. I just shook it off. Off I went. That was just pebble that just need to be ignored. Some tests came and went but alhamdulillah it got fixed for a couple of days and the relationship among colleagues back to normal, at least that what I see.
Till... a year after I stepped into this place. Exactly a year after my coming here.
So, Allah subhanallahu wa ta'ala has blessed me with opportunity of joining in a special program for teacher. After completing a four-month-course I was eligible to receive extra fund from government that is paid every three months. I was so contented since I had been dreaming about getting it years ago. I was planning to give all the money for my parents.
FYI, both my parents are hard working parents. They did all they could to provide us with the best facilities they could afford. I believe all parents do the same thing.
So, on June this year, the fund was sent to my account. Ohhh gosh.... u have no idea how jolly I was thinking about giving it to my mom and dad. My parents were happy when I did it. I don't care what kind of stuff they want to buy with the money, I would just say ok. But my parents chose to give it back to me and ask me to save it in the bank. I did it. I know my parents will need the money for hajj next year, inshaallah.
Happiness and bitterness sometimes come together. We were not able able to choose only one- I bet we would always choose happiness. Here come the bitterness.
So one of the colleagues has extra responsibility to input any new data of us. Since I have got the certificate from the program, my data needed to be renewed. The problem is, this person expect some of the money from any teachers who get extra fund from the government. The tradition have lasted for quite long time. The problem is, no one has given money to him sincerely. As I said before, I have set boundaries for myself and learning to say no when it's necessary.
So when this person approached me and asked me to go somewhere and talk about it, I had known what he expected from me. So I rejected his request as polite as I could. His face turned from salesman smile to forced smile. I knew he disappointed and angry. Do I care? Of course no. Sorry, but no sorry.
I explained him that I don't mind giving money to other people as long as no regulation about the amount of money and no regular time. In short: I rejected his idea about giving him money every time I get extra fund from the government. I have intended to give all the money to my parents who have worked super hard to take care of us. My parents have dedicated all their sources for their kids without asking favors in return. They even never asked any money from me or my siblings for all the deeds they have done to us. But this dude, expected me to give him money for renewing my data, which is one of his responsibilities and he has been paid by gov for that. Subhanallah!
When I got the money, I gave all to my mom but I asked permission to use some of the money to buy treat for my colleagues at work, including him. My mom agreed and very supportive.
Mind u, I tried to say hi to him several times but he ignored me always 😂. But that's fine. I hope Allah subhanallahu wa ta'ala forgive him and me and put hidayah in our heart always. He has been mad at me and ignored me for almost 4 months only because of money that he thought he has right to have some of it.
I have explained to him that I don't mind giving sadaqa and remind him that in Islam, it's prohibited to ask money from other people, except for the poor (fakir). He has a job, nice house, car, motorbike, so no reason for him to ask (beg) money from somebody else and if he gets money from asking (begging or forcing), that's haram money.
Seems that the money has occupied his mind so he chose to be mad at me till now 🤭.
Dear brother,
Stop asking money from somebody else that u know u have no right of the money. Have some dignity. Keep your hand off of someone's wallet. Respect yourself by avoiding begging. PLEASE!!!
I am not angry. I just think that I need to emphasize it :).
Adios.
